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Engaged

Yes, you need boundaries in marriage too.

It is easy to think that once we’re married, we have free reign to let loose and be as sexually free as we desire. Some Christians can often think of marriage as a ‘sex on tap’ situation. However, the reality is that sex within marriage still requires consent and self-control. No, sex is not on tap in marriage! You don’t get it as much as you so desire, there’s a whole other person with opinions, desires, and values to consider – just like dating.  Knowing how your body responds to your menstrual cycle allows you to communicate your needs with your spouse, not only is it helpful to understand yourself but it creates a channel

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Female Health

Physical boundaries and hormones. A dynamic duo. 

You may have stumbled upon videos of this 1970s psychological experiment where children had the option of having a marshmallow as an immediate reward or two marshmallows if they waited 15 minutes being alone with a single marshmallow. The study (the Stanford marshmallow experiment, if you’d like to check it out) looks at delayed gratification. I bring it up because keeping physical boundaries when oestrogen levels are through the roof, around the time of ovulation, can feel a little like being tempted with the greatest reward we could access right at that time. Women’s bodies, their hormone cycles to be specific, are geared towards fertilising the egg at the time of ovulation, so, unsurprisingly, sexual

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